This past weekend Kansas City Chiefs football player, Jovan Belcher, shot and killed his girlfriend and mother of his infant daughter. At the time as it was being reported as Belcher could possibly be suffering from concussion due to football or possibly mental health issues. As we waited on more information to come forth, we have now found out that Belcher was out partying the night before and had gotten into an argument with girlfriend Kassandra Perkins and then proceeded to murder her. Belcher did this in front of his mother and with his young daughter present. Senseless crime; Senseless violence. Were there other episodes of domestic violence with Belcher and Perkins? We may never know. What we do is that we should mourn the death of Kassandra Perkins.
We all have someone that has been affected by domestic abuse whether it is a friend, family member or us personally; domestic abuse has touched all of us. The problem is what we are doing about it because all of us are to blame for this problem. How so?
Entertainment: Are we watching, reading, or listening to music, movies, books that promote this type of behavior. Now there will be many that will disagree and claim that this does not affect us but we KNOW better. People tend to act out what they see and read. What you feed your mind will eventually become part of your personality. Imagine what this type of entertainment does to our kids, our teenagers? If art imitates life, you better believe that LIFE imitates art. We have to set guidelines for ourselves as adults on what we are taking in. It takes discipline. We also have to monitor what are young ones are also taking in. That means watching what they are doing on the computer. Check the ratings on music, games, and television, to see if it is age appropriate.
Get Involved: My friends have told me that one day someone is going to hurt me because when it comes to domestic abuse, I either try to break it up when I see it or I stand there and call the cops. Any man that puts his hands on a woman is a coward. No man should stand around and watch, videotape, anyone fighting especially women being abused. Are we taking part in our local chapters who speak about domestic abuse? Spending time with our young daughters, nieces, sisters, aunts about what to look for, ask, and OBSERVE when choosing, dating, or dealing with men. This is not just a onetime conversation. Are you getting to REALLY KNOW about the men that are coming around? Are you asking questions? When you know of someone who is being abused are you offering help or assistance?
Gun Control: Yes the constitution states that every person has the right to bear arms but should it be this easy? Are you actively taking part in trying to change the gun laws in your community? People with anger issues are more likely to use it. As we have seen in this case Belcher used the gun and then regretted it and killed himself. Guns are not the problem is the person getting the gun, the types of guns being sold, and the access.
Domestic Abuse Centers: Every City and State has various agencies that can offer assistances for that are in need. Many agencies are also looking for volunteers. For more information on Domestic Abuse: http://www.thehotline.org or 1−800−799−SAFE (7233).